10 Things I wish to tell my husband:
Marriage like any other sacred institution requires constant effort from both persons involved. Since in this case each one is from a different planet (Mars vs Venus) it is better to communicate as much as possible in order to avoid presumptions and misunderstanding. This is my attempt at making myself understood.
1. Listen to me-when I am telling you a story or ranting about something that's troubling me almost always I know what the solution is already. I just need to vent and talk about it. So just listen patiently without rolling your eyes or reminding me that I'll have to deal with my problems maturely.
2. Our parents-contrary to your idea that I dislike your parents, I actually do like them. I also respect the fact that they are as important to you as mine are to me. Yes I do make efforts to do things for them and will continue to do so. At the same time I'd like it if you could get involved a little more in my parents lives. After all they too have acquired a son recently and would like to be a part of his life.
3. Respect my idiosyncrasies-understand that while I am willing to change a whole lot of things for the sake of our happiness just as you have too, there will always be somethings I am particular about. (For eg.: maintaining a clean kitchen or not letting dishes pile up in the sink) It would be really nice is you respected those traits of mine.
4. Appreciate me-telling me that my hair looks good or that you like the way my eyes look or that you enjoyed a meal I cooked is something I crave to hear. While I don't expect you to do this every day, it would feel nice to be appreciated every once in a while.
5. BFF-you are my best friend! While I will always be close to some of my girlfriends you need to know that you're the one I will always turn to first. I love how you make me laugh and how I can be my true self with you always.
6. Admiration-watching you get dressed to work is one of the best parts of my day (of course the other one is cuddling in bed with you!)
7. Sex-I realised that I can never seem to have enough of it. I love having sex with you and would love to experiment and spice it up often. You're super hot!
8. Push me but be kind simultaneously-one of my biggest fears is disappointing you. You're my best critic and I love that but please be nice about it. You don't have to sugar coat stuff but hug me and tell me that you want me to achieve more. I will move mountains for you.
9. Communicate-I understand that there will be things you don't like or times when you get angry. All I ask is not to shut me out. Your indifference hurts the most. Take as much time and space as you need but let me know what troubled you so that I can steer clear of it the next time.
10. I love you
Marriage like any other sacred institution requires constant effort from both persons involved. Since in this case each one is from a different planet (Mars vs Venus) it is better to communicate as much as possible in order to avoid presumptions and misunderstanding. This is my attempt at making myself understood.
1. Listen to me-when I am telling you a story or ranting about something that's troubling me almost always I know what the solution is already. I just need to vent and talk about it. So just listen patiently without rolling your eyes or reminding me that I'll have to deal with my problems maturely.
2. Our parents-contrary to your idea that I dislike your parents, I actually do like them. I also respect the fact that they are as important to you as mine are to me. Yes I do make efforts to do things for them and will continue to do so. At the same time I'd like it if you could get involved a little more in my parents lives. After all they too have acquired a son recently and would like to be a part of his life.
3. Respect my idiosyncrasies-understand that while I am willing to change a whole lot of things for the sake of our happiness just as you have too, there will always be somethings I am particular about. (For eg.: maintaining a clean kitchen or not letting dishes pile up in the sink) It would be really nice is you respected those traits of mine.
4. Appreciate me-telling me that my hair looks good or that you like the way my eyes look or that you enjoyed a meal I cooked is something I crave to hear. While I don't expect you to do this every day, it would feel nice to be appreciated every once in a while.
5. BFF-you are my best friend! While I will always be close to some of my girlfriends you need to know that you're the one I will always turn to first. I love how you make me laugh and how I can be my true self with you always.
6. Admiration-watching you get dressed to work is one of the best parts of my day (of course the other one is cuddling in bed with you!)
7. Sex-I realised that I can never seem to have enough of it. I love having sex with you and would love to experiment and spice it up often. You're super hot!
8. Push me but be kind simultaneously-one of my biggest fears is disappointing you. You're my best critic and I love that but please be nice about it. You don't have to sugar coat stuff but hug me and tell me that you want me to achieve more. I will move mountains for you.
9. Communicate-I understand that there will be things you don't like or times when you get angry. All I ask is not to shut me out. Your indifference hurts the most. Take as much time and space as you need but let me know what troubled you so that I can steer clear of it the next time.
10. I love you